Self love is above all the most important thing you can do for yourself and the world. When we truly love ourselves we step into our power. We stop wasting time insulting ourselves and coming up with the hundereds of reasons why we cannot succeed and start thinking about all the ways we can. We are capable of being more true in our friendships and intimate relationships as we become honest and present. When we stop tearing ourselves apart we are more willing to take leaps of faith for we stop becoming afraid of failure, we learn to see our failures as part of learning…instead of a sign that we are worthless. The problem is most people dont know where to begin loving themselves.
Want to take part in this wonderful self transformation…it’s simple and anyone can start without spending a dime. Here a few things to start you out. Remember this is your life, don’t spend it hating yourself.
1. Spend 5 minutes every day saying something good about yourself while standing in front of the mirror. I know this immediately brings up fear in some of you, and doubt in others. But the truth of the matter is we have been programmed by the media and the outside world to see how we are not good enough. How many 2 and 3 year olds do you know who dislike themself? Why do you think this is? It’s because their destructive programming has not been fully installed yet. Our brain is like a big computer, it remembers things we can’t even recall with our consciousness. It buries things deep that damage us, pulling them out to show us again and again…only we don’t always remember where it came from. I once had a student who told me that she was stupid and she couldn’t even read. This same student was always talking to me about the things she had learned from the book Animal Speak by Ted Andrews. I pointed out to her that she had gained this insight by reading. Her belief that she was stupid and couldnt read had come from a second grade teacher. She didnt always think about the teacher telling her she was stupid because she struggled to learn to read…What she remembered was I am stupid and I can’t read. Those hidey holes in our brain create alot of problems as we often take other peoples words and opinions and make them into our own. By saying positive things about ourself while looking into our own eyes we can begin to reprogram our brain to tell us things that are true…things we believe about ourself. Even if all you can say to begin is “I am good with animals”, its a start. Soon you will find more and more positive things about yourself.
2. Volunteer…it has been proven that people who help others are happier, healthier and have a greater sense of purpose. When we help others we can see our own light shining and making a difference in the world around us. We are tribal by nature, we seek the connectiveness of the whole.
3. Step out of abusive relationships…I don’t just mean intimate relationships, but friendships and family relationships as well. We do not have to stay connected to friends and family who put us down, or make us feel small. That is not a true friendship. Often in life we stay connected to people just because we have history with them. I am not telling you to turn your back on friends in need, but simply that it is not real friendship if the people you are associating with do not respect you. If they treat you poorly, insult you, tell you you are not good enough, take advantage of your generosity with no balance or giving back simply let it go. You do not need to make a big scene about it, but choose to do other things with your life.
This is asimple place to start, but it is far more complex then it seems. It will take diligence and commitment, but you can do it. Love yourself & love the world.