It is not the quantity of time spent that guarantees someone touch or change our life, but the quality. Sometimes a person we know briefly can have a lasting effect on who we are and how we live our lives.
When my friend passed I was 21 years old, and still caught up in the fear of failure. The fear of failure or making a fool of oneself is the prime reason most people don’t step out of their comfort zone. We walk around fantasizing about the things we would like to do and the life we would like to live, but we struggle with that leap of faith. We struggle because we are afraid to fail, to be less then perfect and for fear that others will see & know we are flawed. I admired my friends zest for life so much that when he died I asked him to stand by my side and kick me square in the ass if I held back because of fear. I wanted to live my life on fire, to follow my heart and experience all there was for me this lifetime…the successes and failures. That was 23 years ago, and I am pleased to say that I have lived my life willing to take chances. In fact I often tell people that when I am 80 years old and looking back on my life I would rather have a good story to tell, then to say I wish I had tried that.
How do we step out of our comfort zone?
The act of Not Doing-
We can start by the act of ‘Not Doing’, which is exactly what it sounds like. The act of not doing is getting out of autopilot and thinking about what we want instead of just doing what we always do. Lets face it, we are creatures of habit….we drive to work the same route every day, go to the grocery store on the same day, put our yoga mats down in the same spot in the studio and watch the same television shows. That’s auto-pilot! It’s basically being asleep at the wheel and letting our non thinking, same old-same old self rule the show. What happens when we are in auto pilot…the same old song and dance my friends, the same old song and dance. ‘Not Doing’, is really a simple act to accomplish, but the results are sometimes anything but ordinary. Try taking a different route home from work, call up a friend and go out for dinner on a Tuesday evening instead of watching your Shows, place your yoga mat in the opposite corner of the room and think….Think, watch, observe. Often the conversations & experiences we have while Not Doing are profound…we are awake, aware and ready to live truly. Not Doing is just a start, it is not the be all end all of changing your life to one on fire. But you certainly will not get there while running on auto pilot.
Dare to Dream-