While my father’s story has a beautiful ending; filled with family reunions, healing, and soul growth, not all who dance with the devil are so lucky. For fighting the fight of addiction is battled one day at a time. My father had to fight that battle every time someone offered him a drink, without knowing that they were unconsciously speaking the words of his demon…tempting him with the elixir he had turned to over and over again when faced with his inner pain.
In my work as a Medium, I meet with families weekly who have lost someone they love to addiction. These Spirits come forward hesitantly, and by their approach alone I know that they were partially responsible for their own passing. I call it ‘partially responsible’, because they did not choose to die, yet it was not an accident. They placed the needle in their arm, swallowed the pills or destroyed their liver/lives by their own hands. Yet they were not alone in their minds, the substance they abused was there with them; like an evil twin, whispering in their ear “Fuck it, fuck it all!”
We are dealing with a battle of epic proportions. One that affects us all, every single one of us has someone we love who is battling addiction. Some of us do not even see it for what it is, until it rears up like a monster, unexpectedly setting the world around them into chaos. The media gives us a picture of what ‘Addiction’ looks like…a super skinny, strung out person, usually with sunken eyes and a lot of tattoos. This is not an accurate vision, and by accepting this image we allow the monster to hide in plain sight. I have met with families who were completely blindsided when their loved one died of an overdose, or when they discovered that the overweight businessman was addicted to prescription pain medication, or that their super smart, popular child was living off amphetamines, or that their charismatic uncle was a bastard at home; due to the mood swings associated with his drinking.
I am not here to solve the problem of addiction, believe me, I would if I could. Instead, I am here to provide a way of healing and growth for the families and friends left in its wake.