There is something beautiful about being part of a group, a deep sense of belonging and collaboration. We humans, seek out such connections because it helps us identify ourselves. We inspire, give support and challenge one another. In many ways, we learn who we truly are when we interact with others. Our similarities and differences of opinion and values help forge us into the individuals we are. I love the idea of being part of something, but like most relationships, the people in them evolve, roles we take change and often we move on. I suppose I am one of those that move on. It’s not that I cannot commit, but more that my life often takes me on the winding road, with paths so narrow that I must often walk alone; part of the balance required if we are to truly know ourselves.
Loneliness is powerful, it has much to teach us about ourselves. Many people try to avoid it at all cost choosing instead to fill their days with endless social media check-ins and the mindless chatter of superficial conversation. Few people are comfortable with the thoughts that speak to them from the shadows of their mind. We have become accustomed to identifying ourselves solely by the value that others place on us. This is unfortunate for the shadow has much to offer us. The path of one is also powerful.
I have no group to work my All Hallows magic with, I have groups I can join, and groups I can lead, but I have no group to which I currently belong, and yet I feel the call of my Ancestors, asking me to prepare for their holy night. I am comfortable with my solitary position and accept the loneliness as fitting for embracing the veil of death. I know that I have many friends who are waiting for me on the other side, reaching out for contact. As a Medium, my days are filled with speaking to those who have passed on, to the Beloved Dead, but they are not mine, they are the loved ones of others, of the people who I help with my work.
I feel regret for those of you who have become accustomed to joining me in the Betwixt & Between, crossing the veil at this time of year with my guidance and will indeed hold such space for you again in the future. But for now I must follow the path of loneliness where it leads me. I have prepared a Samhain Celebration for those of you who would like a little guidance in honoring your Beloved Dead this Halloween season.