When I meet with individuals and families for Spirit Communication I do so with a blank slate; I do not ask questions ahead of time. In truth, I do not want to know about my clients (both living & dead) before sitting down with them for communication. This is one of the ways in which I keep sane; keeping my work from personal life. If I wanted to, I could be interacting with Spirits constantly. In fact, I have put more effort into controlling when and where they talk to me, then how to get them to talk to me. This separation also makes the experience more solid for the recipients, for they know that I have not received information about them or their Beloved Dead prior to our scheduled appointment.
With this as practice, each guest living/dead comes into my space and shares their story through me. Some Spirits speak directly to me, and I simply repeat the words they are using, others show me detailed images of their life and fill me with emotion. Most Spirits communicate in a mixed combination of both. Extroverted people are more likely to use words, while introverts are more likely to use imagery and emotion.
Over the last 5 years, I have found myself saying more and more often “Is your loved one responsible for their own passing?”. I can always tell when a Spirit has passed due to their own actions, for they stand back a bit from me. This is not done out of shame, but out of a desire to keep their emotional self in check. Let me explain…
Imagine our emotions to have a setting like a volume dial on a stereo, that goes from 1-10. Most people go through life with their emotions set at about 3-4 out of 10, a person struggling with depression and/or anxiety is living with a volume dial set significantly higher; like 8 out of 10. When we die our emotions are turned way down, to like a 2-3 out of 10. This allows us to analytically review our life, helping us to see a clearer picture; to know how we were loved, and to see the truth of situations, that may have been clouded by emotion.
When a Spirit comes in contact with a Medium, the volume gets turned up, as they come into the vibration of the living through the energy provided by the Medium. Mediums are like conduits, energy flows through them in such a way that it can be used by the Spirit world (both the dead & nature). This extra energy is vital for communication to take place, however, it does make it a bit more tricky when the Spirit at hand has struggled emotionally. I can generally gauge the health of a Spirit (how much healing has taken place for the soul after death) by how comfortable they are in my space, experiencing emotion. Sometimes I must rely on my doorman/spirit guide ‘Adam’ to work as a translator; this is only necessary when the soul is still in a deep state of healing and coming in full contact with me & the emotional volume I carry is too difficult for them.
This understanding of emotional level; learned through the Spirit world, has helped me understand the true challenge people with depression, anxiety & addiction face. They are often blinded to outside factors, as they cannot see past the emotional onslaught they are facing. Their life from the outside has no say on what is going on in the inside. Their life could look fantastic to others, filled with exciting vacations, financial stability and still be a living hell. For th