The Winter Solstice is the longest night of the year. In the Northern Hemisphere it is the time when we are the furthest away from the sun. It is a time that has been celebrated for time on end, culture after culture recreating the stories behind the celebrations that all share a common thread…rebirth.
Rebirth, the very sound of the word brings up feelings of deep change and letting go of what no longer serves us. It speaks of cleanliness of the soul and of opportunity to recreate who we are and what we stand for. Many of us consciously take part in this alteration when we speak our words of resolution on New Years. We state to ourselves and others that we are going to make a change. Unfortunately, most people do not follow through on their resolutions. I believe this to be in part because we set our resolutions to unrealistic levels, like losing 50lbs & giving up cigarettes cold turkey. Not that these things are impossible, but without a plan they are unplausible. Most people do not take their desire for change beyond the initial idea, they do not create a plan or direct their energy at it willfully. What would happen if we did?
First and foremost we need to give ourselves permission to change, we all have the right to change direction and become someone different. I say permission because most of us are unwittingly controlled by who we see ourselves as/the story we tell of self, and who others believe us to be. We follow patterns and routines that reinforce our story, often to our disadvantage. We use words like ‘always’ and statements like ‘that’s just the way it is’ to tell ourselves that we cannot change. We do not do this intentionally, but we do it so often that we move through life like a car stuck in a rut; pulled by the direction worn before us.
How many of you do this? How many of you speak to yourselves in words that prevent change? How many of you have gone beyond the odds and transformed yourself into who you wanted to be?
True resolution comes through looking deeply at that which we want to change. It is about seeing it for what it is and telling ourselves that we have free will. We can continue to follow our life as set before us, or we can direct our will to make the changes we want. We can only do this if we are honest with ourselves and look at the why of what holds us back. Why do we continue to take self-defeating actions? Why do we set ourselves up for failure? What are our biggest challenges?
These questions help us get to the root of our behaviors, and show us what our true obstacles are. If we know who/what we are up against we will be better prepared to face it.
How does all of this connect to the Winter Solstice? Resolutions…