We have already talked about the importance of safety in communicating with Spirits (see my Safety First blog series on this page), now it is time to talk about Dancing with our Shadow.
In Spiritual terms our Shadow is the part of ourselves we are not completely comfortable with. It is the pieces we choose to hide, the personality traits we do not want the whole world to know about & the parts of ourselves we do not want to give power to. Yet as much as we deny them they remain hiding in the corners of our being…hence the term Shadow. My personal Shadow is that of arrogance and manipulation & I came to terms with it many years ago. Most often my Shadow shows up when I am feeling insecure or slighted in some way. It reminds me that I am special, in fact it demands that I see how important I am and how the other (person/situation) is so terribly wrong. It tries to convince me that I should persuade others into seeing my point of view. I do not let my Shadow run things, but I recognize it when it shows up and I acknowledge that it is there for a reason. We all have Shadows, each and every one of us has some personal trait that we would prefer to hide from the rest of the world, a trait that usually causes more problems then good. Knowing/acknowledging our Shadow prevents it from having power over us, which is a highly important thing when exploring the world of Spirit.
We cannot deny our Shadow. We cannot pretend it does not exist, for if we do it will show up at the most inconvenient of moments. To open oneself to the path of Spirit we make ourselves vulnerable. As I have said previously not all Spirits are nice and friendly type, just like Living-beings there are those in the Spirit world that are self serving and generally unpleasant. The big difference is that we are use to keeping our shit from people living in the here and now. The Spirit world is a bit more tricky and we have a tendency to show our underbelly a bit more often there. When we know who we are-the good and the not so good, there is little that can be used against us. If I did not acknowledge that my Shadow had an inflated ego, I would be easily manipulated by any Spirit that wanted to praise me..particularly if I wasn’t feeling all that good about myself in the ‘real world’. If instead of an inflated ego, my Shadow was one of self loathing I may be prone to any story I encountered in the Spirit world that enforced the story of my being plagued or deserving of haunting.
We must engage in a ‘Dance with our Shadow’, one in which we lead…neither giving it power, nor ignoring it. Psychosis or mental imbalance is more likely to happen in connection to Spiritual experience if we ignore our Shadow or give our power over to it. When we know who we are we are not as easily swayed by flattery, insult or manipulation. In part 2 of this series I mentioned a friend of mine who was overcome by the fictitious workings of her mind. In the Dance with her Shadow, she let the Shadow lead & was led astray into a world where she was ever the victim. Not just in this life time, but in every lifetime she could conjure up. Like an ancient tragedy she was plagued by the workings of her own mind and fully engaged in what her Shadow showed her.
So how do we Dance with our Shadow?
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